Is a Picture Worth a Thousand Words?: Blogging 101

Carol A. Hand

The need to explain how things came to be is part of the ongoing challenge of being different, of being from a high-context culture. Today’s topic for blogging 101 is no exception. Why this name for the blog in the header? Why this photo? And why this blogging partnership?

I’m curious to know how many people have wondered about a blog administered by partners from different states, one who is semi-retired and living in Minnesota, and one who is on a faculty in Tennessee. We are an odd pair – one is “straight” (a funny label) and of Ojibwe and Anglo-American ancestry, and one is gay. Our friendship was forged on the first day we met and firmly cemented during the test of advocating for a student who was targeted by discrimination. Although we were somewhat successful as advocates, allowing the student to successfully finish her degree, our advocacy cost us our standing at the university. I know I would willingly choose to go down fighting for social justice time and time again. I am grateful to the friend who volunteered to take the lead and withstood the ordeal by my side.

Graduation 2008

Photo Credit: Cheryl Bates and Tom Bates – Graduation Day – May 17, 2008

If I remember correctly, it was a snowy day at the end of March 2008 when I went to pick up Dr. Cheryl Bates for our breakfast interview at the campus where I taught. She was one of the candidates interviewing for a tenure-track position, a grueling ordeal that requires interviews with faculty and administrators, a teaching demonstration, and a presentation of one’s research. As I stood at the hotel desk where she stayed during her campus visit, waiting for someone to appear, I saw a lovely young woman approaching. Instantly, I felt her enthusiasm, humility, and gentle spirit. Our breakfast meeting at a favorite local greasy spoon confirmed my initial impressions. We shared stories and laughed, and of course arrived just on time for her meeting with the dean. She was whisked away by the chair of the department to face this new adventure among strangers. I am grateful she accepted the position, although I know the experiences will probably leave deep scars on her gentle spirit.

Despite her many accomplishments and the crucial perspectives she brought to a homophobic context, she was quickly relegated to the margins. I remember sitting near her in a meeting while other faculty discussed how to respond to the concerns of the national accrediting body with the lack of content in our program’s curriculum on dealing with the “isms” – folks like Cheryl and me. You know, people who were Native or gay or Black. There are several encounters that helped me understand the magnitude of the every day micro aggressions and outright ignorance she encountered. Imagine having each word you utter be misinterpreted as a sexual innuendo by some of the young female students in your class? The same words out of my mouth would not be interpreted in the same way. And how about the eager candidate who came to interview the next year who sought her out to make a memorable impression in hopes that she would recommend him for the open faculty position? “I’m so interested in your research on transgender issues. I was fascinated when I read an article on the history of dildos.” Cheryl met these challenges and many others with humor, humility and grace.

We stayed in touch as one headed to the northwest, and the other to the southeast. When I began blogging with a different partner in June of 2013, Cheryl followed the blog and would share her insights when we spoke on the phone. My former blogging partner negotiated the technical aspects of setting up our site, and although we agreed to the purpose of posting pieces that challenged the status quo, it became clear over time that we had different perspectives on what that really meant. Although open to feedback and suggestions, I grew weary of hearing that my language was too academic, my titles too long, and my insistence on citing references was pretentious. The final straw was an article I wrote about caregivers that wasn’t “good enough to post on our blog.”  I rewrote it in several versions and none of them sufficed. It was then that I turned to Cheryl and asked if she would read the three drafts and let me know if any of them worked. In the conversation that followed, Cheryl said “I’m still laughing at the second version. It’s so funny and it’s good.”

So, despite my technophobia, I created my own blog to post those pieces my blogging partner didn’t feel were good enough. Unfortunately, this move was interpreted by my original blogging partner as the end of our partnership and friendship. I was deeply saddened by the misinterpretation and loss, but I persevered through the first few months. I am so grateful for the blogging friends who supported me (and my former partner) through the rough transition. When Cheryl told me she was taking a class on writing html code, I was excited and asked her if she would like to partner on the new blog. I made it clear that we were both free to publish what we felt was appropriate, but to me partnership meant the chance to make the blog feel like her home, too. She was the one who figured out how to create the header, Voices from the Margins, that now graces our blog, and how to upload the background picture. It’s a picture that has special significance to her, but that is a story I will leave for her to tell – or not.

cheryl

Photo Credit: Jill, Cheryl’s Faithful Companion – Bull’s Gap, Tennessee

For today’s assignment, I’ll simply say that I believe I can now figure out how to create a header and upload a background picture in the Runo Lite theme thanks to Cheryl. So instead, today I’ll work on overcoming my fear of widgets – maybe removing those that make the site a tad too busy. Someday I might even successfully tackle adding the copyright statement to the margins instead of coping and pasting it on every post. 🙂

(A final note – I would like to thank Skywalker Storyteller for inspiring this post. Miigwetch my sister in spirit.)

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About Carol A. Hand

What matters are not the titles I’ve held or university degrees I earned or the size of a house or bank account. It’s really what I’ve learned from ordinary people like me whom I’ve met along the way. They taught me to live with gratitude and give thanks for each new day.
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9 Responses to Is a Picture Worth a Thousand Words?: Blogging 101

  1. Congratulations on learning from each other and working well together.

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  2. I replied to your note above in the pingback – which I guess is on my blog. Thanks for this very interesting post, you answered a lot of questions for me. I continued to follow your original collaborative blog for a while, after you had started writing on your own. But, one time she wrote a blog that I totally disagreed with and since you weren’t with her anymore, I stopped following. I believe everyone is entitled to express their opinions, but I don’t have to listen as my approach to a sacred life is to multiply what is positive – and you are definitely one of the most positive.

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  3. I retweeted this 🙂 x x x

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  4. mandy says:

    Carol, I think it’s wonderful the way you love to collaborate with people on projects. You have a listening nature but a mind of your own–evidenced by you standing by your post on elders (That was SO important!)–and knowing when it’s time to move on. I have read Cheryl’s posts and drawn in to them also; I think you found a fabulous blog partner in her! I know you say you are techno-challenged, but I also know that you will figure out everything! (I’m afraid of widgets, too! 🙂

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  5. Jeff Nguyen says:

    I didn’t realize that you and your blog partner, Cheryl, were in different states. I loved reading the background story, it adds more context to your blog’s history. Voices from the Margins was an excellent choice for a title that encapsulates so well how many us feel…isolated and marginalized to the sidelines. Your blog serves as a reminder that we are not alone and that there are so many likeminded people who simply want peace and compassion to rule, rather than the endless pursuit of profit.

    Thank you to both you and Cheryl for the community you’ve built and nurtured here.

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    • carolahand says:

      Thank you for your ongoing kindness, Jeff. Your support and encouragement have been among the major reasons why I continued to blog during a difficult transition point. And I am grateful for Cheryl’s ongoing presence. She read this post before it was published, and many others that I wasn’t sure made sense. Some don’t, and I do appreciate and listen to her advice, just as I did with my former blog partner. Of course, the final decisions about what I say and post are mine, but it helps me to look at things from other perspectives before deciding 🙂 .

      Yes, we are a community on the margins, and really we are the majority in the world. If only we could all see that! Chi miigwetch for being a crucial part of our community, Jeff. Your vision and depth are an inspiration to me and so many others.

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