Carol A. Hand

The love of my youth is dying
On earth, this lifetime, we’ll not meet again
A long life is sometimes a blessing
but surviving dear friends brings such pain

Truly gentle men are so rare to find
The world doesn’t treat them well
They often ease disappointments silently
with distractions to escape an inner hell

À bientôt, my beloved friend
May you finally know peace deep and true
Please know you’ll always remain in my heart
Though, from afar, I must send my final earthly loving adieu

Snowflakes and Sunlight February 27, 2017

Snowflakes and Sunlight
February 27, 2017


for David

There are so many better ways to say “farewell” in French. It’s the language of the heart. I turn to it now to express the depth of my grief and sense of loss.

À bientôt means “see you soon

Adieu translates literally as “(I commend you) to god” 


About Carol A. Hand

What matters are not the titles I’ve held or university degrees I earned or the size of a house or bank account. It’s really what I’ve learned from ordinary people like me whom I’ve met along the way. They taught me to live with gratitude and give thanks for each new day.
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47 Responses to Adieu

  1. wolfegeo says:

    Carol, I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful farewell to a dear friend. My heart goes out to you.

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  2. Lara/Trace says:

    My deepest sympathy Carol. Hugs, too.

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  3. desilef says:

    une amitié exceptionnelle … condoléances

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  4. thejuicenut says:

    Thinking of you, Carol, I am so sorry, a lovely tribute to your friend.

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  5. sojourner says:

    I am so sorry, Carol.

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  6. Carol…my deepest condolences. What a beautiful, loving gift, this post. ❤

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  7. Une amitié exceptionnelle … condoléances, dear sweet Carol! ❤ ❤ ❤

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  8. How soulful, Carol. My condolences to you and all who love your friend.

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  9. Bernadette says:

    It is so hard to loose the friends of our youth. Every time one passes you losses a piece of your heart and a piece of your history.

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  10. Beautiful words from a beautiful person. x

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  11. Carol, my sympathies.

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  12. Sana Khan says:

    So sad to hear about your loss ! May God give you patience

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  13. I’m with you in your pain, Carol. Losing our loved ones is one of our greatest difficulties as humans ❤

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  14. goroyboy says:

    My heart breaks for you my dear. Thank you for sharing your heart. May God blanket your grief with his peace and mercy. Amen

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  15. underswansea says:

    I used to argue with my father. I’d tell him I would like to live forever. He’d say he’d hate to live on while his friends and family past on. It’s not like we have a say in it. We get tired like the creeks change paths and the mountains slip into the draws. It seeps in gradually even when it’s quick. Keep your eyes wide and strong for your good friend, Carol. He may be looking back for them. Take care.

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    • I appreciate your deep and thoughtful comments, Bob. Your father sounds like a very wise man. Fatigue does seep in, but there are still children and grandchildren to care for and meaningful work that needs doing. Rest will come in its own time and moments of beauty to ease weary souls. ❤


  16. underswansea says:

    PS your snowflakes look like stars to me.

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  17. Carol, I am most sorry for your loss. As we get older, I find it hard to tell if the still-ahead opportunities to learn and grow and give (and raise a little hell!) truly make up for all the people we must mourn. Yet refusing to care is no option at all. So … we carry on — you do it thoughtfully and with grace; I just keep snarling and swearing. – Linda

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  18. mistermuse says:

    Beautiful. The second stanza of your poem is especially inspired, in that it perfectly and succinctly captures ‘the way it is.’

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    • Thank you for your lovely, thoughtful comments, Mister Muse. It is deeply troubling that the sensitive among us often need to escape from the world as it is. At least my friend is finally at peace now.

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  19. I had two strong reminders of the impermanence of our earthly life – an elderly friend of mine is in the hospital recuperating from what could have been a fatal illness; and one of my husband’s closest high school buddies who probably only has a few weeks to live (dying from cancer). It has shaken me up, I am doubting everything but also reminding myself to stay in the now and let it be enough. Blessings to you in your grieving time.

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  20. afwaswater says:

    In my thoughts I’ll send you a hug,

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  21. What a deeply moving tribute to your loss Carol. Sending loving kindness your way. ❤✌🏽

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  22. mytiturk says:

    Read this lovely piece early on and found it beautifully touching. Thought I had responded before now. Must have suffered some device-related distraction… After just reading the comments I understand dimly the extent of the grief that you and your daughter share. So sorry to hear, Carola.

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